Show HN: Poppy – A simple app to stay intentional with relationships(poppy-connection-keeper.netlify.app)
95 points bymahirhiro6 hours ago |29 comments
billyjobob0 minutes ago
I recall a post recently that suggested rather than a fixed contact interval ("message this friend every 2 weeks") it was better to use a Fibonacci spiral (2 weeks, 3 weeks, 5 weeks, etc). Perhaps you could implement that?
wolvoleo1 minute ago
Hmm if I were to use this I'd want it synced with my desktop (self hosted). I don't spend so much time on the tiny screen of my phone. When I'm at home or the office I have glorious 24" displays and real keyboards so I just use those. It wouldn't work if the phone is the only way to get to this.

Also I'd want it to connect to my messaging apps so I don't have to tell it when I connected with someone. I have better things to do than keeping logs up to date. I have all my messaging apps integrated into a self hosted matrix instance.

But it's a nice idea especially with ADHD.

jamilton4 hours ago
Website looks nice. The copy being so painfully AI-written is a turnoff, enough that my first thought was "oh yeah, I remember hearing about this kind of app, I should look at the other one I'm thinking of". I do like that it's local and free.

Imported some contacts, doing quick setup, first contact, can't scroll down to confirm/finish setting them up. I'm on the SE, which is a slightly smaller screen, sometimes apps seem to have trouble with it, I assume they're assuming a larger screen.

nullbyte8083 hours ago
How do you know its AI? Who cares, sounds fine too me.
apsurd42 minutes ago
AI tends to be a buzz kill on products because it sends the signal "i can't be bothered to craft this deliberately."

So why then should we bother to interact with the product deliberately.

Around here most know how hard and time consuming it is to ship a production grade experience. AI helps a ton. it's not "wrong" per say, but it undeniably leaves an odor.

worthless-trash50 minutes ago
We do mate, we do.
swaminarayan3 hours ago
A lot of apps try to solve the “stay in touch with people” problem, but in my experience the novelty usually wears off after a while and the reminders start feeling like noise. Curious how you approached this in Poppy — did you design anything specifically to avoid reminder fatigue and make it sustainable long-term?
bengale34 minutes ago
Realising the irony of complaining about the complaining; can we not just have one comment that moans about AI writing and then consider it said?

It's going to be and endless circular discussion going forward, AI is not going anywhere, people are going to use it to write copy. Like all things that irk overly technical people it will be completely missed by the masses so none of the pushback will have any effect.

SeriousM4 hours ago
I really appreciate this work. Yes, it's AI language and it seems it's not polished to run on every device -yet.

And it does one thing really good: be there. Sounds silly, I know, but an app that tries to make the world better AT NO COST is so much more than "well, I could vibe code that myself".

Thanks fellow creator of this app. Thanks for believing that this app may have an impact on the important part of our life: re/connecting people.

dvt4 hours ago
"Poppy turns your contacts into a living garden. Gentle reminders, zero guilt."—bleh, at least write your own taglines :/

This is a neat idea that has been tried about 300 times over, but since it's contingent on already being cognizant of keeping up with relationships, people that install it aren't going to people that need to be using it.

listic1 hour ago
> This is a neat idea that has been tried about 300 times over

Could you share the top 3 attempts that tried it and are better at it? I only know that things like this should exist, but didn't look any further into this class of things, yet.

My idea of what to look into is some kind of CRM for my personal contacts.

bobbiechen50 minutes ago
Not sure if it's top 3, but I use Monica https://www.monicahq.com/ which does advertise itself as a personal CRM. I certainly underutilize its features but things like birthday reminders + a place for a few notes (where do they live again? who's their partner?) is nice
wincy3 hours ago
I mean, I’m a pretty ADHD guy, very in the moment, and although I sporadically invite friends or old colleagues to catch up for lunch, I mean to do it regularly, but I might forget to invite them for years at a time, so this might be good for me. I could really used an “Anki for lunch”, spaced repetition reminders for people in my Rolodex, as it were.
opto3 hours ago
You just need a tickler file.
alabhyajindal39 minutes ago
I built something very similar recently but eventually lost interest because I couldn't find customers. It's main focus was sending email reminders to users to contact their friends.

https://alabhya.me/myfriends

pousada17 minutes ago
I’ve been meaning to build a personal selfhostable version of this. I’ll vibecode it as simple webapp someday and OSS it, should be easy enough.

I see the merit in this project as well but no way in hell i share this data with a third party

jonners004 hours ago
This is great, but also not well suited (in terms of visuals, name, language) to some of the audiences that need it most. A version that resonates more with middle aged men would be great. Oak or something.
paulglx1 hour ago
The AI writing is a big turn-off: if the app is crafted with the same care as the copy on the website, I'm not sure I want to trust the owner with VERY personal data like that :)
marvin-hansen2 hours ago
Totally love this app. I've always struggled with fostering relationships over time and keeping track of all the little things different people value. I actually tried a friend journal a week ago but that didn't worked as planned either. Once I installed this app, I pinged some folks, had a great unexpected call and now my garden is growing. I value the privacy & local first paradigm. I would have not installed a cloud SaaS app or hidden subscription. However I'm okay with paying a reasonable one time fee for an upgraded version. I did paid for IA Writer on Mac and iphone because their product is exactly right. Your app is similar in the sense that it solves one particular problem for one specific group of people really well. Therefore please consider a paid version at some point.
rkangel27 minutes ago
Looks lovely, but unusable by me as I'm on Android.
mriet37 minutes ago
So, I respect the entrepeneurship and technical skills to make this. Well done!

That being said, this is insane.

Maintaining your social network is a skill, just like being able to swim, doing math, being able to hold a good conversation, being able to code or cook or do your taxes.

The "promise" and "illusion" of silicon valley is that all problems (including and maybe even especially social ones) can be solved with technology. This is not true.

Having to use your brain to think about things is definitely painful. It also has incredibly good long-term effects -- and also negative short-term effects because it costs energy. It's similar to eating well, regularly exercising and other aspects of taking care of yourself.

Making sure you can remember to think about other people is not a problem -- it's a REALLY valuable skill that is gradually disappearing.

JaumeGreen26 minutes ago
The problem is not remembering other people, it's contacting them. One always has a thousand excuses to not do the right thing. By gamifying it, and setting reminders, it gives a nudge in the right direction.

It's not different to setting reminders to go to the gym, take your medicine, or any other thing you should do regularly.

And by using this clutch you can train your social muscles so you end up not needing it.

I've used something similar in the past, setting up reminders during the day to keep in contact with someone, using them enough so now I can keep in touch with them without needing the reminders (I no longer have them set up).

For some people there are "basic" things that are hard, these kind of tools are for them.

togido2 hours ago
Hey it’s an amazing app. I was trying to make an app where user can send notifications to friends when they think about them. I think it would be a great additional feature to your app! Reach me if you want to talk about it
bahador4 hours ago
Is this a CRM for your friends? FRM? FriendsForce?
mekaoro1 hour ago
Love the idea! Contrary to the comments i have seen this first time, just the website copy is AI generated hence it feels off.
HaloZero3 hours ago
I love this! It’s a fantastic little free app. Any reason you don’t open source it? I’d love to help fix some bugs that I encounter.
dddddaviddddd4 hours ago
It would be nice if the homepage loaded more gracefully with Javascript disabled -- as it is, it's completely blank without JS.
adi29074 hours ago
This is definitely very useful, and something i've been thinking of to build myself. A personal CRM. Issue is when I see something like this - where it will take me around half hour to figure out - while i can vibe code something in an hour which will do much more and personalize it for me, I hold back on trying it out.
downboots3 hours ago
Duolingo for relationships. The word engagement is hot lately.
seism4 hours ago
Beautiful. I am a little worried that you’ll soon lose interest and stop supporting the app without a business model. Do you plan to at least get sponsored, e.g. by some kind of foundation, like ones that are behind mental health initiatives?
Madmallard1 hour ago
The solution to fostering relationships is getting off the computer and your phone and social media for a prolonged period of time.
paulhebert4 hours ago
This looks lovely! I've been meaning to do a better job of calling friends and family. I'll try it out!
MagicMoonlight1 hour ago
You definitely slopcoded this entire thing, including all the text. It ha that weird AI tone to it.
zlies4 hours ago
Nice Idea! I noticed a bug during contact import. The month of birthdays are shifted -1 :)
kingkawn3 hours ago
AI writing = nobody will read it. The lure of easy perfection is death to meaningful interaction.